Courses

RECLAIMING THE MUSLIM MANHOOD - ISLAMIC CHIVALRY (FUTWWA) COURTLY LOVE

Date: 18/06/2011

Time: 9.30am – 1pm

Venue: Birkbeck College, Malet Street, London, WC1E 7HX

BOOKING DEADLINE: MONDAY 13TH JUNE 2011 after which prices increase.

Allah says in the Qur'an: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other, and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth." (An-Nisa, 4:34)

Since time immemorial men in all cultures have generally been responsible for looking after their womenfolk and leading the family unit. However, with the industrialisation of societies and the advent of the feminist movement, significant changes have taken place, particularly during the 20th century. While the effects of these changes may have been felt primarily in Western countries, Muslims living in the West and beyond are amongst those whose have been notably affected.

Many Muslim men have become stripped off their masculinity and are much more submissive in their relationships today?

I-phones, computer games, fast food and urban living have all contributed to this demise. At the same time, there has been the rise of so-called “liberated” Muslim women, particularly “feminist hijabis”, who rather than emulating the Mothers of the Believers (ra) and being ‘surrendered wives’ while making important contributions to society, they simply want it all and think they can achieve it all!

Nowadays far too many Muslims are involved in marriages that devolve into an empty observation of duties and an equally vacuous demand for the fulfilment of rights. While such practices may be laudable in their proper context, when they are divorced from kindness, consideration, empathy, and true commitment they define marriages that become a fragile caricature. Such relationships are irreparably shattered by a silly argument, a few wrinkles on the face, unwanted pounds around the waist, a personality quirk or a whimsical desire to play the field to see if one can latch on to someone prettier, wealthier, or possibly more exciting than their spouse.

Many Islamic organisations and shaykhs are also afraid to challenge these deviant ideas because ‘feminist hijabis’ are often the very individuals who provide their main sources of energy and income. Indeed there is a crisis among Muslim men, who have very little support to help them address the social challenges that confront them. Many of their relationships end up in divorce and a significant number prefer to marry a spouse from overseas.

This brief workshop will focus on the following:

* Reminding Muslim men of their God given rights and responsibilities

* Understanding Chivalry both Western & Islamic (Futuwwa)

* Understanding Feminism and its equivalent amongst Muslims

* How to become a real Muslim man in today's societies

Aimed at Muslim men but all welcome including sisters

Ticket price:

Pre-registration online: £10 (E-invoice will be sent)

After deadline: £20 either cash or online

To book please email your name, mobile, total number of tickets required to marriage@islamiccircles.org